Gossip
Ohhhhh how I hate thee.
Too many people out there being all analytical in the flesh. G-d wants us to be wise in His Spirit and not wise in our own opinion.
So please, by all means, when He tells you to say something SAY IT! But do it the right way, please.
Let me explain..
When you have a disagreement with someone, it's usually for a really good reason and it should be solved directly. Anything that is said to outsiders who were not there to witness the exchange is nothing other than gossip.
G-d doesn't like that stuff.
You either speak your heart directly to that person(with 1 or 2 witnesses if ultimately necessary) or keep quiet. Once you have spoken your heart, whether they like what you said or not, you STILL keep quiet. What went on between you and that person is none of anybody else's business.
If you don't have someone in your life you can absolutely trust with private matters, then pray to G-d. As a matter of fact, you should always go to Him first. Always.
What if they start saying things behind your back?
Again, stay quiet and say nothing.
Often times we interrupt G-d's defense by being defensive. If this person was defensive and offended, even if you were right and they were wrong, stay peaceful. If this person does not apologize, then apologize first.
Apologize? What? But they said things that... (shhhh! Silence, remember?)
Yup.
Just do it. It won't kill you. Trust me. Take the initiative to forgive and then to ask for forgiveness. G-d will take care of the rest. You have to believe that.
I know that it's not easy to do that, but are you aware that we have a G-d who speaks on our behalf? Are you aware that we have a G-d who knows all things, sees all things and knows your heart? Are you aware that other people's perception of you will be based mostly on your testimony?
Let G-d do the talking.
Be still and let G-d be.
Chillax.
He's got your back.
Trust me.
Gossip may spread like a wild fire, but G-d's TRUTH sooner or later puts it out COMPLETELY.
This, dear friends, always happens sooner or later.
Patience.
Like I said, G-d's got your back. :)
